Hesitant People are 7 Questions Away from their Dreams
Risks. The one single thing that people are afraid of. If life had no risks, people would be achieving ground-breaking accomplishments and achievements daily.
The impact of achievement would not be that impressive. People would go to work, come back with a raise, and feel that it was a normal day at work. Without the sensation of risk, achievements would be obsolete.
I can see a lot of contradiction in the world regarding life motivation and taking risks.
They say that you should fail to succeed.
They say that you should fall and rise.
They say nothing comes without pain and getting punched in the face.
At the same time, you can find such encouragement and listen to motivational speeches day and night. One thing that you are not getting…
You are not taking risks because you are afraid! — What happened to the “fall to raise”? What happened to the “get punched in the face”? It all vanished when you are about to make that call.
I understand it is not easy to do what you love, sacrificing what you have, a full-time job with a good-paying (safe) salary. The emotional feeling you are getting from going to work and getting back home, knowing that you will get the X amount of cash in your bank account at the end of the month.
That feeling of security that we as human beings are getting used to because it is there. It exists. That’s all.
What if I told you that it is all lies? And that there will never be security in your job. And that there are certain beliefs that you are used to and that you are not living the life that you wish to live. Can that help you make the jump?
If yes, then keep on reading as I’m going to share the 7 important questions — rephrased and inspired from the book “The 4-Hour Work Week” by the productivity legend Tim Ferriss — you need to deeply think and answer these questions before you to make that jump.
Q1: What is Your Nightmare?
To answer this question, you have to know the following points:
- What are your fears? list them all.
- The “what if(s)?” list them down.
- What are the major things that you have to change?
- On a scale from 1–10, how could what you are about to do, harm your life if things went wrong?
- What is the likelihood that these negative things happen?
After getting down all the questions above, you can then get to your nightmare — your worst-case scenario.
Think about the following: Is it worth it to go through your nightmare to live a happy person for the rest of your life? Is the nightmare permanent, or is it temporary? If it was temporary, is it worth going through to get where you want to go?
Q2: How Can You Get Back on Track?
Let’s say you are a security seeker. You want to get the chance to get punched in the face, and if you fail, you want to know if it is possible to get back up and get back to the ways used to be before — walk away with minor injuries.
Ask yourself: Can I get that job back? What are the chances that I get another job in case things did not go well?
Q3: What are the Probable Outcomes?
Think positive. What are the possible outcomes that you would gain if things got where you want them to be?
How would you feel?
- Internally: Would it make you more confident? Happier?… etc.
- Externally: Would it make your relationships better? Connect you with better people?… etc.
Rate from a scale of 1–10 the impact of the change you are about to take in case it went well. Ask yourself:
- Do you deserve to get to that place?
- Did others have achieved what you want to achieve? — that might be less intelligent than you, with less money, fewer relationships, etc.
- What makes them special? What they had that you do not?
Q4: If You Were Fired Today, What Would You Do?
Let us put you in your worst nightmare for a moment. Imagine that you got a call from your boss, and as cold as his voice is, he tells you the following: “I’m sorry, but you are fired, come empty your office/cubical.” And hangs off. What do you do?
I don’t care if you are from a perfect place in the world that you can go back and negotiate your way in. Imagine that you cannot get back to your job. What will you do?
If you don’t have an answer to that question, well, you better plan for it.
If you are now out of the career you spent your life building, how would you get back? What would be the next step/call/action? Plan your worst-case scenario.
Q5: What is Putting You Back Out of Fear?
What is the one thing that is making you hesitate?
Is it the call you have to make? The email you have to send? The conversation you have to make? Whatever it is, please write it down.
When you have something unknown, you tend to be afraid of it. But, writing it down and thinking about it might make it easier or maybe worst. There is no other way to know unless you face it.
Talking about taking risks. Nothing comes easy. Look at the worst-case scenario that you wrote, accept it, and take it.
“What we fear doing most,
is usually what we most need to do.”
Q6: What is the Cost of Posponding?
Even if you believe that staying in your safe full-time job is the right thing, consider the price you are paying when you are postponing.
You are not getting younger by the day. Your life is not indefinite.
It costs you your time, happiness, physical wellbeing, emotional satisfaction, financial freedom, etc.
Ask yourself: If I don’t pursue the things that excite me the most, where would I be in 1 year, 5 years, 10 years?
Let me answer this for you…
I know that you are thinking of “I already know that.”
Fine, Think about it a second time…
I can’t kindly say this. Your life is finite, and someday you will die. Would you risk not living the life of your dreams because of your fears? Define your fears. Is it the failure? Time? Money? Security? Family? The unknown? What is it? Define it, and face it.
At the end of the day, what we fear the most is not something impossible to overcome. Others had it, and they overcome it. Even if you fail, so what?
“Inaction is the greatest risk of all.”
Q7: What Are You Waiting For?
If you reached this question and still think about “good timing,” disregarding the previous concepts mentioned in the questions above. Then you are still afraid of making the jump.
There will never be a perfect time if you are in your comfort zone.
People are looking for the easiest, cheapest, less risky way to live. This is normal; what is not normal is understanding the path and understanding that you have to face risks and plan for the uncertainties to reach your dreams.
If you can not resonate with this simple concept, you are either happy with your current life — good for you, or you are not valuing your dreams enough, which is very common.
Whoever you are, good luck on your way to success.